As adult children, you are still your parents’ children, no matter how old you are, but children become adults and should separate themselves from their parents. This detachment process isimportant for you, but also for your partner. Your partner and your new family should be the new system that takes priority, so that we remain autonomous from our parents and learn to set healthy boundaries.
For some people, this detachment process, the detachmenthas not worked and parents often continue to impose their own unprocessed traumas, thinking and feeling patterns on their adult children. Check for yourself whether the relationship with your parents feels right and redraw your boundaries.