“… is an interview that never ended. ” Gregory Peck once said.
I think there’s a lot of truth in that. Never stop talking to each other, REALLY talking about what’s on your partner’s mind, what you’re feeling, what you’re happy about, what you’re angry about, what you might be afraid of. Because a partnership is not a finished construct, but a changing PROCESS.
Interviewing each other again, as we all do so wonderfully and naturally in the dating phase, is one of the“7 secrets of a happy marriage” according to John Gottman. On the one hand, we show our partner that we are interested in him/her, we pay attention to him/her and on the other hand, we learn something about our partner that would otherwise remain hidden from us. This improves and “fires up” a partnership enormously. “Allow” your partner new facets, even if it is irritating for you at first, nothing makes a partnership more exciting than being curious about each other again.
Give it a try, you will see that you will rediscover your partner and your love for each other will become more intimate.